Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Kinky To-Do-List I: Domly Dom Stuff

So I had an idea: All us kinky people, predominantly us Dominants, come up with kinky/sadistic ideas all the time. Problem is if you're like me you forget many of those awesome twisted ideas. So why not write them down? So here is my plan, see that tab up top that says "Kinky To-Do-List"? Well it's exactly what it sounds like, it's a place for me to keep track of things I'd like to do, ideas I have, goals for myself, toys I want to buy, fantasies I want to make into a reality & maybe even some I don't. Think of it as an all encompassing BDSM Christmas list if you will!

Domly Dom Stuff:

I figured I'd start with the stuff my inner Dominant wants, it's my predominant role & it's easy for me to write about.

-Get better with rope: This has been on my list of things to do for years & slowly but surely I've been working on it. Still I'm ashamed to say I've made very little progress in the time I've had to do it, especially considering how many friends I have that are amazing with rope. I learn by doing so it's just something I have to break down & practice, practice, practice. Good news is the other day I attempted an easy tie on Minx but it was one I had never done before. Usually that sort of stuff makes me nervous but I was supremely confident in being able to do it & I nailed it. Usually when I'm learning new things I need to have an experience like that to really get motivated & I can feel the drive to move forward with it waking up so I maybe making some progress with this in the near future. I've waited long enough for this one, there isn't many things sexier to me than a tied up, helpless & exposed women.

Speaking of tied up & helpless: One of my favorite photos.

-Piercing & Cutting: I used to enjoy piercing. Problem was it's one of those things that wrecks me. Just the rush & the high from it totally knocks me out. It's because of that that I stopped doing it for a long while, so much so that I don't feel comfortable doing it again without a refresher course. I've already spoken to a friend who is amazing with needles but we haven't seen each other in a while so we haven't got around to it yet. Cutting is a bit different, I've never done it before but have wanted to for years. I once watched a cutting scene & to this day it's one of the very best I've ever seen. Just watching it gave me the rush of a needle scene! Plus it just seems like more my style. Have some friends that are quite good with it. Need to hit them up.

-Minx as my slave for the day: If this seems like a forgone conclusion it's not. Minx & I are not 24/7, nor is there much serious D/s between us besides how we just interact with each other in general. We have talked about doing this at some point but it's tough when you have a vanilla roommate who's also familly. Also both of our moods fluctuate greatly & this would require us being pretty damn in sync to pull off. Still it's not impossible, I think renting a hotel room for a day or two at something like the wonderful resort we just stayed at would be perfect for this. We'd have privacy, a new environment to get ourselves out of our daily headspace & it would require us to set a specific date. Of all the things on these lists I'll be writing this is near the top of it.

-Dehumanization/Objectification: Not so much a to do but it's something that I've discovered I love & I want to play with it more. I really putting a hood over Minx & using her. The one we have has a mouth opening as to not stop me from using her mouth too. There is something about taking someones identity away and using them as nothing more than a fuck hole that is wildly erotic to me & I really want to do it more, most likely in conjunction with things I'm going to write about later.

-Poker party: One of my biggest fantasies & one of my oldest. This a guys night, poker, cigars & even dressed up (ties & the like) but with a moderate to high protocol D/s twist. Think female submissives/slaves to serve us, suck us, get fucked by us, or fuck each other all for our enjoyment. We could even gamble the women & certain services. Have this image in my mind of one girl under the table taking turns blowing each guy while we play... preferably Minx, it turns me on incredibly when she's slutty & I love sharing her (more on this later) The challenge would be getting a group of people together to where everyone is willing to do these things with everyone else... could be hard. Also love the idea of having one girl tied to a bed & blindfolded in another room and have her be the prize for a hand or two. Leave her there alone for awhile (safety) & let the tension build up. Then when the winner starts using her she'll have no idea who it is.... I think you can imagine the rest.

-The Domly Dom Shopping list:

More Rope! See above.

Straight jacket. More specifically one like this. I L-O-V-E helpless girls in bondage (see rope stuff above) & I love boobs which this kind clearly shows off! It's a win-win. I've wanted one of these for ages & I want to make it happen soon. In fact I think it's what I want to ask Kinky-clause for Christmas this year! As a bottom years ago one of the most intense experiences I ever had was in a straight jacket. Getting to do something similar to someone has been on my to-do-list for a very long time now.

Muzzle. Not only do I love helpless women but I love them gagged too. Thing is Minx has TMJ & gags over any long period of time can be difficult for her to handle. I never use them with her, I know I can from time to time for a moderate amount of time but I've become a little gun shy about it because of her condition  The solution? One of these! Most preferably in conjunction with the above straight jacket!   

Inflatable dildo to begin stretching Minx for regular fisting activities. I've fisted her once & I've fisted someone else a couple of times now but thats about it.

A Dildo with a suction cup. I once saw a photo on tumblr (saved it somewhere) where they had a mirror, on the mirror hung a dildo held on by a built in suction cup. A guy was fucking the girl doggy style while she sucked the dildo. Fucking HOT! As I mentioned above I love when my wife is a slut & often fantasize about her sucking another cock while I fuck her. Plus you get the added bonus of the mind fuck as she watches herself suck a cock in the mirror & me getting to see it too. We even have the perfect mirror in our room to do it with. I need to make this happen!

Sort of like this! ...like the idea of one in her too.


Well thats it for now. I plan on doing a few of these over the next few weeks detailing my other wish list items with the goal of working on making them happen through the next year or so. Subjects include: Role Playing scenarios, sexual/group activities, Subby stuff & a post about things that may be better off left as fantasy. Hope you enjoy.   

Monday, October 1, 2012

but I thought this was a sex blog.....


Since I've written Minx & I have had some great experiences including but not limited to a wonderful threesome with Lady Isadora. I've wanted to write about them & have even started to but for the life of me I can't finish or post them.

Truth is surprisingly I'm shy about it.

For a person who loves to talk about sex, who loves to have it & gets turned on just by watching my wife be a slut you'd think this wouldn't be a problem but it is.

Truth be told I'm worried about being judged, I always have been. I've gotten better with it over the years, MUCH better but this is a tough one for me for some reason. Why should I be? Am I afraid that people will think I'm too kinky? Not enough? Or am just afraid or just don't want to share such a personal part of my life?

Honestly I don't know the answer but I'm going to try anyway. I usually make it a point to do the things that are hard for me to do. This is no different.  Got to work on sharing my personal smut!

.....Because you have to have goals in life.